Can we expect a spoiled rotten five year old child to avoid constantly craving more tooth-rotting candy? Nope. That’s just what spoiled rotten children want/do. Likewise, an abuser will involuntarily crave more of their abuse onto others (especially onto empaths), because they consider it to be ‘fun’, its a source of energy/power, and they fear nothing more than that the target of the abuser stands up for him/herself and begins to abuse THEM — not that empaths would likely choose to go that extra step, but that’s what the abusers fear. Because: they project onto empaths what the abuser’s own nature is. Therein lies the disorder. Fun, right?
Allegorically speaking, we might ask: what would be sane about the colour red fearing that the colour blue suddenly becomes red? Nothing. Nothing is sane about that. Not only does blue want nothing to do with red (after all, light is supposedly inanimate), but it just so happens that these two dissonant colours exist on opposite ends of the light spectrum.
Let’s try switching things around a bit in order to comprehend the abusive behaviour of projecting onto others: ‘It would be the same as if empaths would suddenly fear that apaths (abusers) would turn around one day and love us! God forbid. Why, that would be TERRIFYING.’ Obviously, not the most rational or even sane train of thought ever. Alas, such are the minds of abusers, and this is why we categorize them as having mental disorders… because they are fucking mental!
I have throughout my life usually tended to root for the underdog in just about any given situation, instead of merge with the fat dogs (who always seem to have some extra materialistic advantage (ephemeral energy) to offer; hey, who doesn’t appreciate a few perks in life, right?); besides, underdogs are usually so much more interesting, have way more to say, and tend to be the more easier-going peaceful crowd, whereas fat dogs tend to be rather boring and not very thoughtful or contemplative. Giant babies, basically.
So, whenever someone begins a sentence directed at us with the likes of abusive patronizing totalitarian words such as: “You need to…”, it can be a good habit to tune out right then and there, and even start walking away from that physical geographic location where said abusers are found wanting to occupy. Remember: abusers need targets, not the other way around. Otherwise if we tune in and hang around we risk that the abuser’s projections become imprinted onto us so that their fears and desires will ever so slightly become our own. In this way an empath can become poisoned to the point of vengeance. This is extremely sad and totally deranged because empaths do not value revenge; it is not a fruit of the spirit but a desire of the flesh for short-term gains which can only breed more revenge, shovel full by shovel full digging out the pit deeper and deeper… and we all know that ‘who so ever diggeth a pit shall fall in it’. So walk away as soon as humanly possible, lest you be laid to rest before the gods come calling your name.
We know that a person is a narcissistic abuser when they ***threaten*** — HELLO!!!??? — to sew you for speaking. The #1 reason that narcissists sue people is solely for money and a feeling of control (to get “one up” on you), nothing else matters to them. They might claim “defamation of character” or “slander” (their poor gigantic egos are hurt) and beg for others to pity them because they’ve “got it so hard” but in reality all they want to do is HURT you, not by using mere words, either audibly or in text, but with the heartless cowardice of legal system sand third parties (that’s just what cowards do; hey, why be responsible for our own actions in life when we can have little baby jesus be responsible FOR us in court instead?! That’s how they ‘get off’. Why else do you think the sex is so goddamn dry?
They care about nothing but themselves and their appearances. They have no consideration for higher virtues or fruits of the spirit such as forgiveness, understanding, empathy, joy. They want war — always. Not dialogue. Their hearts are poisoned by hate, jealousy, fear, rage and envy. They want what YOU have. They want and expect everything from everyone at all times because they know deep down inside that they have nothing and that they are essentially worthless when it really comes down to it (cowards are useless in a REAL war). That’s why we call it a disorder: because its a SICKNESS OF THE MIND BODY & SPIRIT. Narcissists will even often claim that they know better than you do concerning your own physiology, ability to judge or intuit or sense your environment, and just about anything else. They are truly deranged.
But the good news is that we can, not only learn all about them and their colossal weaknesses, usually brought about and into the open by their own erroneous doing, but we can also learn from them and beat them at their own game. Remember: these are children who are trapped in the bodies of adults. They aren’t all that intelligent in spite of what they think about themselves. Once you know how their tune goes, you can play it backwards and blindfolded like real live musicians can. Of course, this will only enrage the narcissist — and that’s a good thing. You want them to associate their highly uncomfortable rage with you; its like sending them the message that you know that they know that you know all about their computer software programs and passwords, where you can have unlimited access to all their juicy dirty little secrets and could even show them all off to everyone in your village… if you really wanted to! Hell, its like having money in the bank!
These narcissists are highly competitive, and they must be right at all costs. It sounds crazy (because it is), but it is as though they truly believe that they star in “reality” TV shows the likes of Survivor where social games and manipulations and sole concern for rising up on top of the rest of your tribe outweighs all other concerns, such as mutualism — its not even reality, folks! Camera crews follow those people around all day long (a true narcissist’s wet dream). They aren’t lost on some remote island in the middle of nowhere with nothing to eat or no one to provide food or shelter or meds for them. They know exactly where they are and there are plenty of other people around to help them when they truly need it… off camera. Its all an act, just like the narcissist’s entire life is. What’s more is that the system has been so fine-tuned, from culture creation engineering/monitoring radio shows to TV to Hollywood movie audiences etc. that if you are, say, a huge Duck Dynasty fan, for example, chances are that your IQ is not exactly the highest score in the entire world, and that the military intelligence complex has all the stats on you, your parents, their parents, how many times you have watched garbage TV shows or subscribed to them, who your friends are, what they do for a living and how many kids they have, what kinds of foods and beverages you ingest, etc. so that at some point as an adult: the MIC has a fairly good psychological profile on you that just might paint a pretty narcissistic picture in their eye. What’s in YOUR social media news feed… sports cars, plastic spoons, Farmville, skin-deep narcissistic pictures of yourself; garbage? We are what we eat, folks! Drink up that fluoride.
Now, unfortunately, when it comes to religious matters, most xians and other religious folk out there are inclined to being narcissists; after all, they have a super important image to uphold, for the sake of others salvation, right? Christ, get over yourselves. They prefer war over peace, especially when offered the option. Sounds crazy, right? Well, that’s because it is crazy. The reason for why this is the case is because xians & co. will never be wrong when it comes to matters of their faith (not yours, but they will attempt to project that faith, or lies, as I call them, on to you as much as possible; again, in order to control you); they are intransigent. Being ‘wrong’ would imply that their messiah is not their saviour — and never being wrong is one of the narcissist’s BIGGEST tells. HELLO!!!??? The narcissist just can’t go there; they cannot handle the cognitive dissonance. They must be righ, or go way out of their way with big flashing lights on in order to prove that YOU are wrong — ALWAYS. Or else! Its fear of death from cradle to grave… and facing this sort of thing requires a measure of growing up which unfortunately also demands a degree of effort that most prefer to avoid. Hey, why not take the path of least resistance right? After all, life is hard enough as it is. Ambiguity only makes things harder or… realistic, rather.
However, as a free spirit, you can always try expanding your spiritual-mental vocabulary by learning more about Polytheism or the likes of Pagan Heathenry (rather than spending your entire life obsessing over one single book; OCD ring a bell). There is much more depth and substance to these more openminded ancient spiritualities (the only real reason for why xianity ever crept up in the hearts and minds of Gauls, Visigoths, Celts etc., because these Pagan tribes were inclusive of other realities — not exclusive), which serves to keep one’s mind OPEN. Truly, I would rather have a mind opened by wonder than one closed by belief!
Strangely enough and yet not so surprisingly, religious folk often times are totally incapable of walking in the faith that they profess can save others from death or eternal hellfire. It is as though their faith — their dogma (lies) — blinds them from seeing themselves for what they truly are: preachers, judges, accusers, punishers, sinners, just like everyone else is. The only difference with us Polytheistic Heathens? We can own up to it. Religious folk can’t… otherwise in their minds their religion would be tarnished and therefore not the one true religion (how sad).
“Forgive them Father, for they know not what they do.”
But I like my saying better:
“The purest form of evil is the evil which is totally unaware of itself.”
In comparison, empaths actually do value and choose love, empathy and compassion as their ‘faith’. Religious institutionalizations are not the measure of ethics, folks. But once an empath is imprinted onto by an apath, religious or not, the apath’s job is done. If it were not such a bloody dependent zombic vampire, from that moment on the apath might just as well leave the empath alone with their new self-abusive machinations now unconsciously self-propelled, and in ever-increasing momentum. As long as the empath continues to manifest the foreign values of the apath as their own, the empath will continue to cause his/her own abuse. As far as the apath is concerned, they have just created a masterpiece worth boasting about. This internalized empathic self-harm then weakens that empath more and more, until they either somehow miraculously snap out of the newly adopted illness brought about by the imprinting of the abuser, or they will simply roll over and die in one final act; a cry for help… when its too late.
It all boils down to knowing what we truly value in life, folks. Know your true colours. Know that if you are a blue, chances are that you will radiate with other blues, and if you try to be a red — when you are not a red, never have been a red, and can never truly be a red — you will likely morph into some kind of muddy dull drab purple which both blues and reds will see you as constantly alienated from your true self, all while the reds thrive off of abusing you further and your self-harm. Instead, rather than striving after something that you are not, let the reds be reds and consume one another. After all, the colour red mostly exists in ephemeral states anyways (berries, flowers, red hair, blood etc.) where it’s only subjective permanence lies in the likes of molten laval; only occasionally and at limited locations on Earth will it ever show it’s true countenance.
But as a blue, you belong in the vast endless expanse of our powerful deep navyblue oceans full of wild and free rich diverse marine life, the windows to the immortal souls of big beautiful deep blue eyes, and the sky.
Have a good one folks!